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Feeding, dummies and swaddling

What protects, what to be careful with, and why night feeds are meant to happen.

The short version

  • Never shake a baby: if crying overwhelms you, put them somewhere safe such as their cot and walk away for a few minutes.
  • If you bottle feed and follow all the other safer sleep advice, the risk of SIDS is extremely low.
  • Night feeds are normal and essential: babies have very small stomachs and need to feed around the clock.
  • Never force your baby to take more feed than they need in the hope of a longer night, and add nothing to bottle feeds.
  • Dummies may lower SIDS risk: if you use one, use it at every sleep. Swaddling is a choice, not a safety measure.

The rest of this page explains where this comes from. You do not have to read it tonight.

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Feeding, dummies and swaddling

The Lullaby Trust says "any amount of breastfeeding reduces the risk" of SIDS, and that "even breastfeeding for a short time can be protective."

If you bottle feed

Their own words, quoted in full because they matter: "If you bottle feed your baby and follow all the other safer sleep advice then the risk of SIDS is extremely low." How you feed your baby is not what decides whether they are safe. The sleep position, the clear flat separate space, the smoke-free air and a sober carer are.

Dummies

Using a dummy may lower the risk of SIDS. If you are breastfeeding, wait until feeding is established at around four weeks. If the dummy falls out during sleep, "there's no need to put it back in." One caveat: use it at every sleep or not at all, because BASIS, the Baby Sleep Information Source, cites McGarvey and colleagues (2003) finding an increased risk for babies who normally use a dummy but do not have one on a particular night. If you decide to stop, the usual point is between 6 and 12 months.

Swaddling

Some families swaddle and some do not. If you do, the Lullaby Trust's rules are: back sleeping only, a thin muslin or sheet, no extra bedding over the top, head uncovered, room to wiggle at the hips, arms out once your baby starts rolling, never when bed-sharing, and never if your baby is feverish.

The evidence on swaddling is not settled

BASIS flags contrary evidence that is not always mentioned: Blair and colleagues in 2009 "found an increased risk of SIDS for all swaddled babies, including those sleeping on their back." The Lullaby Trust still publishes guidance on swaddling safely, so this is not a prohibition. It does mean swaddling is a choice with an open question attached rather than a safety measure, and you are not doing anything wrong if you never swaddle.

Night feeds are meant to happen

UNICEF UK's parent leaflet puts it plainly: "It is both normal and essential for your baby to feed during the night. Babies grow quickly in the early weeks and months of their lives and have very small stomachs. Therefore, they need to feed around the clock to meet their needs."

Night waking in a young baby is not a fault to be corrected. It is how they get fed. UNICEF is also clear about the thing tired parents are sometimes tempted to try: "Never force your baby to take more feed than they need in the hope that they will sleep for longer. Forcing a baby to finish a feed will be distressing and can mean your baby is overfed." Feed responsively instead, and do not add cereal or anything else to bottle feeds.

When the crying is too much

UNICEF, verbatim: "If your crying baby is impacting on how you feel, remember it is okay to place your baby in a safe place such as a cot or a baby mat and walk away for a few minutes to calm down. Call for help if you need it. Never shake a baby."

Putting your baby down safely and stepping out of the room for a few minutes is a good decision, not a failure. Cry-sis supports parents with crying and sleepless babies on 0800 448 0737, seven days a week, 9am to 10pm.

Where this comes from

Last checked 1 August 2026. This page is general information, not medical advice. If you are worried about your child, speak to your health visitor or GP.